How to set boundaries with your carer

06 February 2019

Setting boundaries with your carer is extremely important. Boundaries are all about expectations, communication and respect, and the relationship between you, your carer and your family will work well if you can consider those things.


Before your carer is appointed, make a list of what your expectations are. Will they help you dress in the morning, make breakfast for you, wash and do light housework before you go out to do an activity for the day? Discuss this with your family as sometimes we have unrealistic expectations of ourselves, and want to present the most competent image of ourselves out of pride.

When your carer first starts with you, discuss your expectations with them openly. Communication is so important in any relationship, but as you get to know each other this is going to be even more vital.

Agree with your carer where your boundaries are, for example your personality type may need some quiet time to read every day, whereas your carer might assume you’d like to chat most of the time. If your carer has a break during the day, try to remember that time is theirs. Make an effort to respect these boundaries, and continue to communicate, as your carer gets to know you better you may ask for different types of help, or more help in a different area of your life.

If you don’t feel your boundaries are being respected, always speak up straight away, and say what you would prefer. Be assertive and communicative, so that nobody makes assumptions that can lead to hurt feelings.

At Promedica24 West Sussex, we carefully vet and train our carers, plus we have a support team in place, and you will always have contact with owner, Chris White-Smith. To have an initial chat with Chris about what a live-in carer you do for your family, please do call him on 01243 684085.

Chris White-Smith

Promedica24 West Sussex

Live-in Care for West Sussex

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